CHOOSING THE RIGHT CELEBRANT: WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A MODERN WEDDING OFFICIANT
Your celebrant is more than someone who stands at the front and leads your ceremony—they’re your storyteller, advocate, and partner in creating a day that reflects your unique love story. Whether you envision a traditional ceremony with a modern twist or a completely non-traditional event that breaks away from convention, the right celebrant will ensure your day is meaningful, memorable, and authentically you.
At Married By A Teddy, we understand the importance of choosing a celebrant who gets your vision and shares your values. It’s about finding someone who respects your identity, creates a supportive atmosphere, and helps you feel seen and celebrated every step of the way. Here’s everything you need to know to choose the right celebrant for your modern wedding!
INCLUSIVITY: FINDING A CELEBRANT WHO RESPECTS ALL IDENTITIES
Your wedding day should be where you and your partner feel celebrated for exactly who you are. Inclusivity isn’t just about using the correct language—it’s about understanding and honouring the diverse experiences of all couples. Choosing a celebrant who values inclusivity and respects all identities is essential to creating a welcoming and supportive ceremony.
WHAT TO LOOK FOR:
Use of Inclusive Language: Does the celebrant use inclusive, gender-neutral language and respect all pronouns? The right celebrant will be comfortable using terms like “partners,” “spouses,” and “chosen family” and will be mindful of avoiding assumptions or stereotypes.
Experience with Diverse Couples: Look for a celebrant with a track record of working with couples from diverse backgrounds, including LGBTQIA+, multicultural, and interfaith relationships. Their experience will help them navigate your unique needs and ensure your ceremony reflects your identity and relationship.
Support for All Family Structures: Whether you’re including chosen family, blended family members, or non-traditional roles, your celebrant should be comfortable and supportive of your choices. They should be experienced in recognising and celebrating a variety of family structures.
TEDDY’S TIP:
“Ask potential celebrants how they ensure their ceremonies are inclusive and welcoming. Their response will give you insight into their values and approach. Remember, your wedding day is about celebrating you—choose someone who truly honours your identity.”
PERSONALISATION: CRAFTING A CEREMONY THAT’S TRULY YOURS
Your wedding ceremony should reflect your relationship, values, and vision. A celebrant prioritising personalisation will work with you to craft a bespoke ceremony that feels deeply meaningful and uniquely you. This means more than just adding your names to a generic template—it’s about telling your story.
WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A PERSONALISED CEREMONY:
Customised Ceremony Scripts: Look for a celebrant who offers fully customised ceremony scripts that weave in your personal stories, shared values, and future aspirations. Whether you want to include personal anecdotes, unique rituals, or meaningful quotes, your celebrant should be open to incorporating your ideas and creating a ceremony that’s a true reflection of your relationship.
Flexibility with Rituals and Elements: Choose a celebrant who embraces creativity and flexibility. From symbolic actions like unity ceremonies to fun, non-traditional rituals, your celebrant should be excited to help bring your vision to life.
Incorporating Cultural and Heritage Elements: If you want to honour your cultural, religious, or family traditions, choose a celebrant experienced in blending these elements into a modern, inclusive ceremony.
TEDDY’S TAKE:
“A favourite part of the role for any celebrant should be working with couples to create unique ceremonies. Whether blending traditions from different cultures or crafting a script filled with inside jokes and personal stories, they should be there to help you create a ceremony that’s as special and unforgettable as your love story.”
PROFESSIONALISM AND EXPERTISE: TRUSTING YOUR CELEBRANT’S EXPERIENCE
Your celebrant’s experience and professionalism ensure your ceremony runs smoothly. From understanding legal requirements to managing logistics on the day, a great celebrant can handle every aspect of your ceremony easily and gracefully.
WHAT TO LOOK FOR:
Years of Experience and Types of Ceremonies: Ask about the celebrant’s experience with different ceremonies, including formal weddings, elopements, micro-weddings, and unconventional celebrations. Their expertise will ensure they’re prepared for any situation that might arise.
Understanding of Legal Requirements: If you’re planning a legally binding ceremony, your celebrant should be knowledgeable about the legal requirements in your area, including necessary documentation, processes, and timelines.
Handling Ceremony Logistics: A professional celebrant will manage ceremony logistics, such as arrival times, coordinating with vendors, and ensuring all aspects of the ceremony flow seamlessly.
TEDDY’S TIP:
“A professional celebrant will have a clear, organised process for working with you—from initial consultations and drafting your ceremony script to ensuring all legal paperwork is completed correctly. This peace of mind allows you to focus on enjoying your day.”
CONNECTION AND COMFORT: FINDING SOMEONE WHO GETS YOU
Your celebrant is someone you’ll be working closely with throughout the planning process, so choosing someone you connect with personally is essential. You should feel comfortable sharing your story, discussing your vision, and expressing concerns or preferences.
QUESTIONS TO ASK DURING THE INITIAL CONSULTATION:
What’s Your Approach to Working with Couples?
This helps you understand how the celebrant collaborates with couples and whether their style aligns with your needs.
How Do You Personalise Each Ceremony?
The celebrant should have a straightforward approach to personalising ceremonies, and they should be enthusiastic about getting to know you as individuals.
What Do You Love Most About Being a Celebrant?
This question can give insight into the celebrant’s passion and dedication to their role. Look for someone who truly loves celebrating love in all its forms.
TEDDY’S TAKE:
“You deserve a celebrant who respects your vision and genuinely connects with you and your partner. Married By A Teddy is passionate about building that connection and making your ceremony a joyful, memorable celebration of your love.”
REVIEWS AND TESTIMONIALS: HEARING FROM PAST COUPLES
Nothing speaks to a celebrant’s quality like reviews and testimonials from past couples. Reading about others’ experiences can provide valuable insight into what it’s like to work with the celebrant and how they bring ceremonies to life.
WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN REVIEWS:
Personal Experiences: Look for reviews that mention how the celebrant made couples feel supported, respected and celebrated.
Examples of Personalisation: Testimonials highlighting the celebrant’s ability to personalise ceremonies and create memorable experiences are particularly valuable.
Handling of Challenges: If any reviews mention how the celebrant handled unexpected challenges, this is a good indicator of their professionalism and calmness under pressure.
TEDDY’S TIP:
“When reading reviews, pay attention to recurring themes, such as how the celebrant communicates, their attention to detail, and their ability to create a relaxed, joyful atmosphere. These qualities are essential for ensuring your ceremony is smooth and stress-free.”
FINAL THOUGHTS: CHOOSING THE RIGHT CELEBRANT
Your wedding celebrant is more than just a figurehead—they’re a storyteller, an advocate, and a guide who helps bring your love story to life. Choosing the right celebrant means finding someone who respects your identity, shares your values, and works collaboratively to create a ceremony that’s authentically yours.
At Married By A Teddy, we’re committed to celebrating love in all its beautiful, diverse forms; whether you’re dreaming of a vibrant, modern ceremony or an intimate, heartfelt celebration, we’re here to support you every step of the way. Ready to find a celebrant who’s as excited about your love story as you are? Get in touch today, and let’s create a ceremony that’s Professionally Fabulous and uniquely yours!