PLANNING YOUR LGBTQIA+ INCLUSIVE WEDDING: LOVE BEYOND LABELS
Every love story is unique, and every couple deserves a wedding that reflects who they are—without limits, labels, or expectations. For LGBTQIA+ couples, planning a wedding that celebrates their identity and relationship authentically and inclusively isn’t just about choosing the right venue or attire—it’s about creating a safe, welcoming space where love can be celebrated in all its beautiful forms.
At Married By A Teddy, we work with incredible couples who are redefining what it means to have a truly their own wedding. From modern rituals to vibrant celebrations that break away from expectations, we’re here to help you craft a wedding that honours your journey and celebrates your love beyond labels.
CHOOSE A CELEBRANT WHO TRULY GETS YOU
Choosing the right celebrant is one of the most crucial decisions when planning your wedding. Your celebrant should support your vision and actively celebrate your identity and relationship. A genuinely inclusive celebrant understands the diverse experiences of LGBTQIA+ couples and creates ceremonies that honour their stories authentically.
WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN AN LGBTQIA+ INCLUSIVE CELEBRANT:
Experience and Advocacy: Look for celebrants with a history of working with LGBTQIA+ couples and actively supporting marriage equality and LGBTQIA+ rights. They should be comfortable discussing diverse relationship dynamics and using inclusive language reflecting your identity.
Personalised Approach: Choose a celebrant who takes the time to get to know you, listens to your story and incorporates elements that are meaningful to you—non-traditional rituals, inclusive language, or symbolic actions that represent your love.
Commitment to Inclusivity: An ideal celebrant will be open to discussing any special considerations, such as family dynamics, gender-neutral titles, and the use of the correct pronouns throughout the ceremony.
TEDDY’S TAKE:
“As an LGBTQIA+ aligned celebrant, I prioritise creating a safe, supportive space where your love is celebrated exactly as it is. From using the right pronouns to weaving your journey into the ceremony script, I’m here to honour your story without labels or limitations.”
LANGUAGE MATTERS: USING WORDS THAT EMBRACE AND EMPOWER
Language is a powerful tool that can either uplift or alienate. Using inclusive language in your wedding ceremony is a small but impactful way to ensure that all guests—especially you and your partner—feel seen, respected, and celebrated.
HOW TO USE INCLUSIVE LANGUAGE IN YOUR CEREMONY:
Avoid Gendered Terms: Replace traditional terms like “bride and groom” with more inclusive options like “partners,” “spouses,” or simply “the couple.”
Respect Pronouns and Identities: Make sure everyone involved in the ceremony, from the celebrant to the wedding party, uses the correct pronouns for you and your partner. Share your pronouns with vendors and ensure they’re used in all communications.
Honour Chosen Family and Friends: For many LGBTQIA+ couples, chosen family members are just as significant as biological relatives. Use terms that reflect your unique family structure, such as “chosen family” or “family of choice.”
TEDDY’S TIP:
“If you’re writing your vows, consider adding a line that reflects your shared commitment to inclusivity. For example, ‘I promise to love you in all your identities, honour your journey, and celebrate every part of who you are.’”
CURATE AN INCLUSIVE VENDOR TEAM
FIND LGBTQIA+ INCLUSIVE VENDORS
Photographers and Videographers: Choose photographers who authentically capture diverse love stories, avoiding gendered poses and stereotypical dynamics. A great photographer will work with you to ensure every shot feels genuine to your relationship.
Florists and Designers: Partner with creative professionals who are open to your ideas and can design decor that celebrates your unique identity, whether it’s through vibrant colours, symbolic flowers, or meaningful arrangements.
Musicians and DJs: Find entertainment professionals who understand and respect your music tastes, pronouns, and relationship dynamics. Consider a DJ or band who has experience performing at LGBTQIA+ weddings and can create an inclusive, celebratory atmosphere.
TEDDY’S TAKE:
“Finding the right vendor team is essential for creating a safe and joyful space. Choose vendors who get you, respect your identity, and are as excited about your love story as you are!”
VENDOR SPOTLIGHT: FLEURI FLOWERS
A Melbourne-based florist specialising in designing floral arrangements that celebrate individuality and diversity.
DESIGN A CEREMONY THAT’S TRUE TO YOUR LOVE STORY
The beauty of planning a non-traditional or LGBTQIA+ wedding is the freedom to design a ceremony that’s authentically you. From symbolic rituals to personalised elements, there are countless ways to create a ceremony that reflects your values, experiences, and unique journey.
IDEAS FOR CRAFTING AN INCLUSIVE CEREMONY:
Create New Traditions: Design a ceremony format that reflects your personalities and shared values, whether a combined entrance, a unique unity ritual, or a moment of silence to honour absent loved ones.
Personal Elements and Stories: Weave personal stories, inside jokes, or shared experiences into your ceremony script to create an intimate and unique ceremony.
Celebrate Chosen Family: Honour the people who have been your biggest supporters—whether they’re biological relatives or chosen family members. Include them in the ceremony by inviting them to give readings, light candles, or share a personal blessing.
TEDDY’S TIP:
“Traditions are what you make of them. Don’t feel bound by convention—create new rituals that are meaningful to you. From symbolic gestures to fun, unexpected moments, your ceremony should reflect everything that makes your relationship special.”
NAVIGATING FAMILY DYNAMICS WITH GRACE AND COMPASSION
Family dynamics can be complex, especially for LGBTQIA+ couples. Balancing the expectations of family members while staying true to your vision can be challenging, but it’s possible with thoughtful planning and open communication.
TIPS FOR MANAGING FAMILY DYNAMICS:
Set Boundaries Early: Communicate your plans and boundaries with family members early in the planning process to avoid misunderstandings. Be clear about what’s non-negotiable and what areas are open to discussion.
Involve a Mediator if Needed: If navigating these conversations feels overwhelming, consider involving your celebrant or a trusted friend as a neutral third party.
Prioritise Your Wellbeing: Remember, this is your day. It’s okay to set boundaries and make decisions that honour your relationship first and foremost. Be true to your vision and create a day that reflects your love story.
TEDDY’S TIP:
“Don’t be afraid to have difficult conversations with family members. Be honest about your expectations and values, and surround yourself with people who support you unconditionally.”
FINAL THOUGHTS: LOVE KNOWS NO LABELS
Planning an LGBTQIA+ inclusive wedding is about more than just logistics—it’s about creating a celebration that embraces your identity, honours your journey, and brings your love story to life authentically and empoweringly. At Married By A Teddy, we’re passionate about helping couples craft ceremonies that are true to who they are—beyond labels, expectations, and limits.